Likeability may seem like it died out after you left high school, but it’s an important factor in the business world. You spend an average of 8.6 hours with your co-workers, which is the most of anyone else.
Whether someone likes you will indicate whether your team works with you and whether you can secure that promotion. The performance of a company will depend on how likeable the person at the top is.
So whether you are an employer or employee you need to know what can make you less likeable. What are the things people use to judge your personality? This article is going to show you.
Everyone brags sometimes, but some people have a variation of bragging. Known as humble bragging, this is where someone will hide their personality behind self-deprecation.
For example, someone may make fun of herself and run herself down, even though they blatantly know that is not true. It is like a skinny person calling themselves fat. They know that is not true, but they want people to say that it is not true because it lends credibility to what they already do.
Self-deprecation can hide bragging, and there is nothing more infuriating for the bystander.
People want to hang out with people who are passionate about something. What they don’t want is to hang out with someone who is uninterested or serious. They don’t want someone who is completely absorbed in their work. Likeable people are able to balance their love of work with having fun.
Strike the balance between the two, so you can get things done without becoming a bore.
Being Too Afraid to Ask Questions
If you have a long project meeting, you should assume that everyone in that meeting knows what they are doing. Listening to someone at that meeting asking the same questions later on is only going to lead to them becoming a figure of dislike because it just means that they are holding everyone back.
People don’t mind when people ask questions because it allows them to be educated. On the other hand, you need to make sure that you are actually taking those answers to heart. Ask questions, don’t be afraid to do so, but make sure you’re actually listening to the answers.
An Emotional Drive-By
They say that attitude is more important than intelligence, and to an extent this is completely true. Attitude is way more valuable because nobody wants someone who’s constantly blowing up at people
Low emotional intelligence is a problem because whenever anyone interacts with such a person they often have to tread carefully. They may feel as if they cannot speak their mind freely in case the person starts to scream or throw things around. Unstable individuals are never welcome.
Never Leaving the Phone
We live in a world where everyone feels like they have to be connected at all times. Feel free to be as connected as you like, but don’t make it into an issue where you are never leaving the phone. There’s nothing ruder than talking to someone who’s constantly texting.
And don’t make the biggest sin of all: whipping out the phone in the middle of the conversation.
The majority of interactions aren’t emergencies and you shouldn’t feel as if you have to reply instantly. The toxic person in the office is nearly always the one who is downright rude.
Finally, the most annoying trait of all is name dropping. Nobody cares if you happen to know the CEO or that your wife happens to know the chief of police. It may mean that you have more influence when it comes down to it, but people don’t want to hear about it.
The only reason anyone is there to name drop is so they can demonstrate how influential they are. It’s something you should stay away from.
There’s only one exception for name dropping, and that is because you are name dropping so you can introduce someone to them. If you must name drop, make sure there’s an actual purpose behind it.
Conclusion – Step Into Someone Else’s Shoes
Likeability is a big trait to have and it can make your life a whole lot easier. If you want to become likeable, step into someone else’s shoes. Take a moment to assess what people think of you and how you should go about changing perceptions.
Do you consider yourself likeable?
About the Author
I am a regular writer for Forbes, Inc., Huffington Post, Entrepreneur Media (among others), as well as CEO and Chairman of Alumnify Inc. Proud alum from 500 Startups and The University of San Diego. Follow me on Twitter @ajalumnify